Let us first establish that in accordance with the true Islamic teaching, both male and female are alike in the sight of Allah, the Almighty. Children, according to Islam, are entitled to various rights. The foremost of these rights is the right to be properly raised and educated. This means that children should be given suitable, sufficient, sound and adequate religious, ethical and moral guidance to last them for their entire lives. In addition to that he must be given worldly education as much as child want to attain.
Parents Lack Of Interest
Children learn more from their parents as they are spending their full time at home with them. So it is the prime school for children in their early stage, as well as stage of teenage. Parents should give maximum time and adhere to Islamic teaching, regularly offering all prayers (and father praying at mosques, if it is close), reading Quran, not earning haram or eating haram food (and of course no drinking alcohol) etc. Treating well with child and with other family members and friends to let him understand good moral behaviours.
Due to lack of interest in children brought up, many Muslim parents wake up one day and find they have a rebellious teenager who they can't reason with, and who is intent on ignoring everyone. Many leave home in angry and ignore their parents completely and do whatever they feel good. This is a sad fact nowadays, and we should be worried about it.
Parents are responsible for children rights
Parents will be held responsible for delivering children rights. They should be engraved with true values, the meaning of right and wrong, true and false, correct and incorrect, appropriate and inappropriate, so forth and so on. Allah, the Almighty stated in the Glorious Qur'an:
"O ye who believe! Save yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is Men and Stones." (At-Tahreem 66:6)
"…. And those who believe will say: "Verily, the losers are they who lose themselves and their families on the Day of Resurrection….' (Ash-Shura 42:45)
Allah's Apostle Mohammad (peace be upon him) also said: "Every one of you (people) is a shepherd. And every one is responsible for whatever falls under his responsibility. A man is like a shepherd of his own family, and he is responsible for them." (Bukhari and Muslim).
Children, therefore are a trust given to the parents. Parents will be responsible for this trust on the Day of Judgement. Parents are essentially responsible for the moral, ethical and basic essential religious teachings of their children.
If parents fulfill this responsibility, they will be free of the consequences on the Day of Judgement. The children will become better citizens and a pleasure to the eyes of their parents, first in this life, and in then in hereafter.
Allah, the Almighty stated in the Glorious Quran: "And those who believe and whose offspring follow them in Faith, to them shall We join their offspring (in heaven), and We shall not decrease the reward of their deeds in anything. Every person is a pledge for that which he has earned". (At-Tur 52:21)
Moreover, Allah's messenger, (PBUH) said: "Upon death, man's deeds will (definitely) stop except for three deeds, namely: a continuous charitable fund, endowment or goodwill; knowledge left for people to benefit from; and pious righteous and God-fearing child who continuously prays Allah, the Almighty, for the soul of his parents." (Muslim)
In fact, such a statement reflects the value of the proper upbringing of children. It has an everlasting effect, even after death.
Unfortunately, many parents from every walk of life, in every society, regardless of creed, origin, social and economical status, etc, have neglected this very important imposed right of their own children on them. Such individuals have indeed lost their children as a result of their own negligence. Such parents are so careless about the time their children spend with no benefit, the friends they associate with, the places they go to, etc. Such parents do not care, are totally indifferent about where their children go, when they come back and so forth and so on, causing the children to grow up without being any responsible and without caring any supervision. Such parents neglect even to instruct, direct or guide their children to proper way of life, even right attitudes towards others. However you may find these parents so careful about guarding their wealth and other activities. They exert every possible effort to lead a very successful life in terms of materialistic gains, although all this wealth is not actually theirs. No one will take wealth to the grave.
Children are to be well-fed, well-groomed, properly dressed for the weather and for appearance, well-taken care of in terms of housing and utilities. However It is more important to offer the child comparable care in terms of educational, religious knowledge, and spiritual guidance. The heart of a child must be filled with faith. A child's mind must be engraved with proper guidance, knowledge and wisdom. Clothes, food, housing, schooling are not, by any means, an indication of proper care of the child. Proper basic Islamic knowledge, education and guidance are far more important to a child than food, grooming and appearance.
One of the due rights of children upon their parents is their spending for their welfare and well-being moderately. Over-spending or negligence is not condoned, accepted or even tolerated in Islam.
Children also have the right to be treated equally in terms of financial gifts. No one should be preferred over the others. All must be treated fairly and equally. Depriving, or banning the right of inheritance, or other financial gifts during the lifetime of the parents or the preference of a parent for one child over the other is considered according to Islam as an act of injustice.
Injustice definitely leads to an atmosphere of hatred, anger and dismay amongst the children in a household. In fact, such an act of injustice may, most likely, lead to animosity amongst the children, and consequently, this will affect the entire family environment. In certain cases a special child may show a tender care for his aging parent, for instance, causing the parent to grant such a child a special gift, or issue him the ownership of a house, a factory, a land, a farm, a car, or any other valuable items. Islam, however considers such a financial reward to such a caring, loving and perhaps obedient child, a wrong act. A caring child is entitled only to reward from Allah, the Almighty.
Islam sees that if parents fulfill their duties towards all their children in terms of providing them with necessary training, educational backing, moral, ethical and religious education, this will definitely lead to a more caring child, a better family atmosphere and a better social environment and awareness. On the other hand, any negligence in those parental duties can lead to the loss of a child or ill treatment of the parents at a later age.
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